The 6 part process to transform you into an independent, self-sufficient, and self-reliant person

Most people live as a passive, unwilling victim of their circumstances and their “Story.”
While no one is invalidating the truth of where they are coming from, these beliefs have bad after affects that impede them living in their power and freeing themselves from the red tape.

Yea, they say, easier said than done.
But done is the simplest part honestly.
Doing the inner work might seem like a maze and a labyrinth of sinkholes and pain from unresolved issues. But it doesn’t have to be.
There might be pain, but it’s ok because healing the wounds is the only way to move past the chains of your surroundings and yourself.
Below you will learn 6 simple methods that together will free you to become your own self sufficient and independence person.

1. Determine the why’s of your beliefs

Think of the age old question “Tell me a little bit about yourself?” This question is so loaded because it tries to condense your intricacies into smaller phrases, words and statements. You yourself know you are so much more than just those words because you know why you say those things. This same space is powerful to do the necessary introspection that produces independent thinking.
What do you “believe” about the nature of yourself, and the world around you? And more importantly, why do you believe those things? Acknowledging this will free you from being in a reactive state, swayed by dogma, or taken advantage of. The clarity of this with yourself will make you a powerful self sufficient person that can overcome any obstacle or problem and make good decisions.

2. Clean up inner emotions and outer emotions for mental clarity.

We have this horrible stigma in Western Society that emotions are bad. While sometimes moods can be problem some, emotions are not the root of all evil. Where did this idea even come from? After all we are emotional creatures and it is within our nature.
I think most would agree that emotions are not the problem, but resulting emotional imbalances from the past is the real problems. Most insane emotions are trickle-downs from other unresolved issues. Coughing down this issues puts you into an emotional survival mode to cover up the issue and over time begins to control you. You become a slave to your triggers, fears, and past experiences.
To achieve independence from allowing the past to control you is to approach the touchy situation with a sense of neutrality, as if you were telling someone else. This way may be painful and it will resurface; let it do so and validate your own feelings. By stating the facts and validating your feelings you have realized your true power and are no longer a victim. Both parts of you are at peace: your logic and your emotion. From this balanced place, you have the power to allow that past situation to not snowball and derail your life and future.

3. Determine the obstacles that you back. Be honest and don’t sugar coat.

So many people feel like they have no idea what they want to do. Most times this is because they are so disconnected from themselves that they have no idea how to tell what their soul is drawn to. This is perfectly ok. Just start from wherever you are and think and do things that make you deeply happy. Do this a lot, knowing and practicing the feeling of genuine happiness will open internal doors within you to reveal your passions and make the path clear.
While you’re doing this peacefully without judgement regularly, you will intuitively know what steps are necessary to do some of your wants and dreams. What is stopping you from doing those things? are your barriers external or internal?
Understanding and seeing your internal and external barriers is not about knocking them down, it is about realizing that they never existed. This ability to see around internal and external obstacles is key to being an independent person who can fully be who they are and understand their purpose and true joy. This puts you in the drivers seat of your life. Moving past barriers internally will make you a whizz at moving the external barriers that approach you along the way to your passion and path. You will be an unstoppable force.

4. Decide their own version of the truth they stand on and approach the world with.

In an endless ocean of information and opinions, what you pay attention to says a lot about you. Of the information you consume, do you consume the information to tell you what to think, or to use it to form your own opinion?
Figuring out what you believe separate from external stimuli is the very meaning of independence. It allows you to plot your own course and decide the direction of your energy and your place in the universe.

5. Understand finances where they are now, and where they want to be

Money is a real thing. I understand that some people don’t care about it, and it is good not to be attached to it…… but it’s not healthy to pretend it’s not there. Finances is a part of life, and understanding yours will fix a lot of your uncertainty.
Taking a step into financial literacy will put you in the drivers seat of life and illuminate the path of self sufficiency. You want to live your life on your own terms internally and externally as well. Be a slave to nothing.
Determine what you can do to make money enough to the things you want. Remember that money is not the goal, the way you want to feel is. Money is owned by you it does not own you.
Financial honestly and literacy one of the keys to seeing internal and external independence. The sooner you start, you’ll wonder why you didn’t start sooner.

6. Becoming of self aware of the present moment

Of the past, present, or future, which holds your power now? The present. Your power is within the present, and this also can control your future. The actions and decisions you make today change your world forever to affect your past and future. This is powerful and is the key to taking action to become your own person.
So many people are controlled by what they think their future would be, or what their past was. Yes those may be real, but neither of those are within your power right now. Be in your power!
Become independent and a soaring star by taking responsibility for your present, not to change your views of the past, not just for your future, but also for the pleasure and power of this moment.
This way you become free from hypothetical what-ifs, overthinking, and made-up obstacles.

Conclusion

Becoming independent is the only way to free yourself period.
This does not mean not relying on other people for somethings. It just means that at the end of the day you are the only one that holds the present and future keys to your life and your story.
Great pleasure and responsibility wait at the door of your self-reliance independence.

Much love and light to you.

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The 4 essential steps to defining your personal truth, finding positivity, and individual identity

So many people feel lost because they feel like they don’t know who they are.
Lost in a sea of stimuli, how do you construct the identity that gives you a springboard into a life and experiences that are customized to you?

You find yourself through the seeking of peace, gratitude, and internal analysis introspection. Notice I didn’t imply anything about conclusions or judgments. The reason I did this, is because clarity will come to you and it will not be ambiguous.

The steps below will allow you to find and gather the blocks that can allow you to begin to define you as a unique being. Through finding your uniqueness you will own your own freedom, independence, and passion that will give you the meaning you search for.

You must approach all of this as a judgement free zone.

Let’s begin.

Find things that make bring you joy

Taking little moments to bring joy to your life draws a map to passion and purpose. In addition to that, it plugs you into your true power because it brings you fully and unrestrictedly into the present moment. The complete immersion into the present moment unlocks hidden clarity and release that allows you to become all of who you are.
During this process as more joy flows through you, take a seat and observe who you are in this moment. How does it feel? What thoughts do you have? Take silent note of the process of your getting there, and hone in on that feeling of that joy state. Both of these are critical to how your internally and externally define your identity.

Find things that activate gratitude

Joy and gratitude are defiantly linked and work together, but they are not necessarily the same thing. Gratitude is a frequency that is powerfully linked with relaxation, release, and flowing. When you are in this state you unknowingly become who you are in a more existential, selfless, blissful state. The kind of “peace that passes all understanding” is defiantly a component of being in a state of gratitude.
Gratitude activates a flow state which allows you to be more at peace to activate those feelings, actions, and emotions that you find holding to yourself. Internal and external barriers start to vanish and the feelings and emotions of who you are begin to step forward with no shame or judgment.

Gratitude for who you have always been:

What thoughts, ideas, and actions come to you without any personal restriction or judgements? Think of how your life has gone so far, and of how it is now? Aside from the external forces that were there, what feelings and thoughts did you constantly have and why? Identifying these patterns and trends is key to understanding your identity over time as a separate whole from the things swirling around you throughout your life. This construct of who you have been is important to your life journey, but who you are now and in this moment, is your true identity.

Gratitude for who you are now:

In addition to providing the best takeoff for introspection into who you are, gratitude is also great for giving identity to who you are now and in the future. Yes, you have always been “who you are,” but the present is the cutting edge between past, present, and future. From the duality that makes you a conscious being, you can always change who you are, and more importantly how you reflect who you are to the world. Gratitude immerses you in the present and helps you decide who you want to be now.
Gratitude can illuminate the things that you are grateful for as well as the things that matter to you. The things that matter to you are clues to the places where your heart truly lies and finds its joy. From gratitude in the present moment, you can see the things that define who you are in this moment. This identity is a great jumping place to start from to move forward in a direction that resonates with your heart and soul.

Find out how you approach the world around you

How you interact and approach the world around you is an important component of how you identity yourself because it addresses the relationship between self and “outside” of self. Yes your connection to source is individual and you have individual control of your energy, but you cannot deny that we are all together in one reality and energy field. This field is made of all of us and how you plug into it says a lot about you. Do you look at things around you to tell you who you are, or do you internally decide? Most people find that they are a mixture of both, and that is very ok.

By determining how you relate to the world around you, you can begin to draw conclusions of your values and character and from there how you choose to express those energies into your reality and world. You will begin to demystify the essence of you and how you choose to transform that essence into something the world around you can see and experience with you. This is the beginnings of living your passion by showing others their own joy and passion. How you choose to use your energy and power is a dynamic portion of who you are as an independent conscious person in the world.

Find what things you find yourself thinking about a lot

Thoughts do not define you, but they make a big impact on views of yourself and the environment around you. This one will involve some introspection, but is essential to understanding the internal structures that make up your identity. As Earl Nightengale said “We become what we think about.”
As you begin to take in this wonderful journey of becoming yourself, take a neutral observation of yourself in daily life. What thoughts are randomly running through your mind all day? Take silent note of what these thought are directly about, but pay just as much attention to the energy and internal conclusions about those thoughts. Collectively think about what umbrellas of meanings those thoughts fall under. Are the thoughts about having transcendental experiences such as helping others, about writing music, or about drawing art work? Are they about all those obstacles you think you have in your life such as your parents, money, that mean person at your job, all the things out of your control?
These thoughts control your actions and choices in the world. Don’t worry if it reveals your constant pain and negativity. There is no power in judgment and pain, only in clarity and solution. Your thoughts are not you, they are a function of you and can be leveraged you our benefit.
By acknowledging what you think about, it will become clear how it relates to who you and how you define yourself. And most of all, if you don’t like something, or you have thoughts that give you pain, just step outside yourself and move to other less painful thoughts. That may sound counterproductive, but it is the only way to remove the negative blockages that can prevent you from fostering the pure thoughts and feelings from the essence of who you are.

Conclusion

Identity does not construct you as a separate being all alone, but identifies you as a unique influential component to the universal puzzle.

By becoming the whole and all of who you are, you become unlock the door to yourself and the freedom to truly be a part of the world around you.

Use the construction of your identity as the springboard into you passionate, fruitful, future.

Much love and light to you.

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