4 ways emotional trauma changes and affects memory and mental clarity

Yes the past is the past, and it cannot be changed.

But emotional memories that began the past, often do very much affect your present.

No matter what it could have been, do you find yourself feeling that situation more than recalling what actually happened?

The reason I ask that is because the emotion sometimes makes it harder to see the truth in a situation. Keep in mind by truth I do not mean right or wrong, just a neutral account of a situation.

You might think, it’s just one thing. As long as you’re not triggered you should be fine right?

No necessarily so.

When certain painful memories are not processed and remain in a cloud of unsettled emotions, it often creates confusion and inferences about not only that situation, but also emotions and situations similar.

Some of the confusion of that situation literally is so enormous, and at a critical time in your development that the residual begins to define all similar or related memories.

A dirty lens on your life

Science has proven several times that your mental state upon approaching the world profoundly changes the way you interact with it. Holding back internal pain from spilling forth puts you in a state of significant agitation and anxiety constantly.

And you may not thing you’re doing that at first, but if you peel back the layers to the pain you’re carrying around, you are constantly trying to cover it up. Which is understandable; it is your emotions for you to deal with.

This level of internalized pain and heartache changes your memory of the past and present. You then in your haste, shove cloudy residual emotion into a cabinet within your mind with an intention to forget.

You may think you forgot, but in most cases you’ll find that you haven’t. It’s still there.

By constantly using parts of your brain power to “look ok,” you are taking away part of your short term and longer term memory power.

Proof of this can be shown in thousands of cases of Depression. In the times of severe episodes, the subject has trouble remembering significant short term and long term memories because they are in cloud of unresolved emotion that fogs up their brain.

Memory can change everything from your educational potential, to your relationships, to the way you interact with yourself.

Memory can make or break in your life, and by harboring emotional trauma, it is clearly impacted negatively. This gives you a faulty foundation on which to life your life.

You now will learn the way that unresolved emotional trauma’s can effect directly your memory of the situation as well as daily living.

 

Short Term Memory: Easy triggering

They reminded you of that one time? Right?

Someone does something to you, immediately you feel an emotional flashback of something from childhood or even 3 years ago. How do you react? You probably will quickly find yourself overreacting.

But who can fault you? You are looking out for yourself. You couldn’t let what happened last time happen again.

But did it happen again? This isn’t the same time period, people, or setting. Why did you think of that?

Also, do you remember what the person did to make you react clearly, or was it a blanket statement like “they disrespected me”? Do you remember how did they do that?

Probably not. And it’s ok.

Emotional trauma will often cause you to act sometimes rashly because certain short term memory will be clouded by the perceived emotion that this person made you feel. Instead of someone you know now, your short term memory of this person is erased and you are taken to way back when.

This memory oversight causes you to completely become triggered.

This clearly can cause mountains of unnecessary drama, violence, and sadness in your life through unnecessary altercations with others.

Get into it [Probing questions]

Think of a time when someone made you furiously angry and you wanted to fight them. Write down a summary of what they did in 2-3 sentences. Write 4 feelings that were associated with that situation throughout it’s unfolding. After that, list 3-4 situations in your past that include those same emotions. Assess how they relate to the most recent one and determine if your anger was well founded. Do this as many times as you need.

 

Short Term/Long Term Memory: stunted emotional processing

It’s just one more thing!

It seems like everything just floods you at once, even if it might seem like a small situation to others. It feels like the weight of the world to you because it is added on top of the massive cloud of unresolved emotions to process and let go.

There is so much that has yet to be worked out. How can you work out something so small in comparison to the rotting mountain of sadness, unforgiveness, and resentment you already have?

Emotional trauma will cause you to not think clearly enough to resolve short term situations that come in your life; you just “won’t want to deal with them.” Of course you have a right to do so if it has nothing to do with you, but if it does directly involve you it is your responsibility to at least try and move forward.

Latent emotional trauma will cloud the specifics of the problem making it feel like it is not solvable and therefore not worth the work. Next you react in not-thought-out behavior to make it go away as fast as possible.

It puts you in survival mode at all times.

Get into it [Probing questions]

Think of an unresolved situation that is going on in your short term life. Write down your summary of what happened in 2-3 sentences. Then try to write 8 facts about the situation; cold hard facts. Can you remember them? Then write you the feeling that you feel. Make an assessment and see if all these three pillars of information add up properly.

Long Term Memory: difficult learning new things

What did your traumatic memory teach you about yourself and people? How do those teachings apply to your now?

You many answer that with theoretical answers, but make it more concrete.

What’s something that you tried your hardest to learn, but despite all of your efforts could not. You started off doing great, over time things threw you off, and then later you just completely gave up.

You most likely gave up because you had an internal belief similar to the following: “I can’t do this,” “This is hard for me,” “I’m not good at this.” This was developed at the 2nd-3rd sign of trouble at the beginning of the learning process. From then on, when you saw anything similar to that subject, you would forever suck at. forever and ever amen.

You made an early generalization and assumption that you could not learn it. Therefore your brain, from that state of pain did not try to remedy the situation because it was already in a defeated mode.

Large emotional trauma often causes you to make generalizations and assumptions about yourself, others, or situational outcomes. These give you an unstable foundation for anything you endeavor because you feel you “already know” how it’s going to end.

With this subconscious end goal in mind, everything seen underneath that umbrella would be like water off a duck’s back- completely forgotten from jump. The generalization has it labelled in brain memory as “not important” and “not useful” and “not worth the effort.” Therefore you forget it instantly.

A concrete present example of this is in school or at work when you have trouble learning newer things just because of your anxiety about it being “new.”

From these residual thoughts, it becomes very hard for you to grasp new ideas, concepts, or perspectives.

Get into it [Probing questions]

How do you feel about math? Write out 4 words to describe about how you feel about math now. Think about your earliest memories of math. Write out 10 feelings about the memories you had way back then. Think about the people and situations that caused you to feel those emotions about math. Write some of them out. Are these three things correlated? Of course this is something different, but it will get you into the right headspace.

Conclusion

I know you are doing the best you can but………

The more you don’t resolve, work through, and forgive both parties for the painful traumatic memories you hold inside, the more it will continue to affect your present, and the way your past influences your present.

These emotional traumas are affecting your memory of immediate situations, emotional processing of current events, and even the way you learn new things.

Working to process and let go of these emotions to where they no longer cause you pain will not only give you mental clarity like never before, but also an ability to approach life from an even and secure foundation.

Growing pains are temporary, but inner peace and contentment is permeant.

Much peace, love, and happiness.

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4 unmistakable signs and feelings that your personal emotional trauma needs healing

So many say if they can’t see something it is not real.

They scour for concrete evidence to support any claim they come in contact with.

While in the era of the internet this is a viable claim, when it comes to nonphysical things, since it doesn’t meet those requirements, many tend to sweep them under the rug as not valid.

Emotions specifically, since each individual has their own, are labeled consciously and subconsciously as not real or dismissed as being ‘too much’ to handle.

“Get over it!” they tell you. People often don’t want to deal with others emotions because they have the possibility of conflicting and releasing their own.

But the thing is that, denying something is real does not make it not so; especially when you can run away from everything but yourself.

Dismissing large emotions, does not make them go away. It just begins a pile of festering, rotting emotional wounds that can never get healed without mending. The infected pus will leak into all areas of your life unless you nurse them.

There are two main architypes of emotions. All of them matter, and each has their purpose, but how they are handled is different.

Passing funks and unnecessary moods Emotional mountains (surrounded by smaller hills and valleys)
Response to immediate surroundings

Immediate stimuli and response

Coverups to other issues

 

Internal/External Programming reactions

Beliefs that stem from memory roots

Emotional programming responses to similar situations

 

But what if it’s hard to tell the magnitude or depth? What if your judgement feels so clouded you have no idea what it going on?

Honesty.

But what to be honest about?

Since we live in homes and social settings that discourage uncovering root emotions…. how do we know those traumas that shape us are real? Honestly?

To demystify this process and kickstart your healing journey, you are about to learn 4 signs that your emotional traumas are in fact real. And require real attention and healing.

 

  1. Did it change how you see yourself?

Memories of massive emotional weight and trauma change the subconscious and conscious value and self image. When you uncover this memory, whatever it is, think of all of the things you felt at that time, just for a moment. Next think of why that memory stuck with you, and what you believe it taught you about your true self. Relate it to how you treat yourself in everyday living. If you see remnants and pieces of conclusions from that situation, in everyday life……it’s real.

Get into it [Probing Questions]

In 7 words, describe yourself. Write them down. Why did you choose those 7 words? Write that too. Think about a situation in your life where you exemplified this word. While this might be for good things, it will get you into the process of undercovering the bad situations it necessary.

 

  1. Changes how you see others

Saying things like ”I hate people.” “People make me sick,” “People don’t care about you!” and the infamous “People are out to get you.”

Where did it come from specifically? And before you say someone told you that, words don’t teach, experience does. So that means something had to happen to you for you to start internalizing that belief also.

Did the experience in mind jade your view of how other people think, and most importantly how other people relate to you? Find out if there is an innate belief somewhere that is a baseline for how you treat other people and how they in turn treat you.

If that situation changed people into pawns, villains, or even angels of salvation. Your trauma is real.

Get into it [Probing Questions]

Think about how you feel about people you don’t know. Not friends, not family, not acquaintances, just random people with a different background than you. If someone were to ask you to give them a cup of ice cream you just purchased, how do you envision the average person would react to that? Whatever the reaction is what is your support to that claim?

 

  1. Changes how you problem solve

Some situations in life will hit you on the blind side. These situations knock you over and try to shatter your routine. But do you let them? Sticky situations tend to stick you in them no matter what, sometimes when you’re not even involved. Do you take a chance to survey all perspectives before reacting, or do you jump back at the first thing that jumps at you?

Whatever that answer is: why do you do that? Do you feel people are disrespectful to you? Are they attacking you? What do you think it the best way to stop this from happening now and long term?

If there is a memory that changed your immediate and long term reaction to obstacles and problems, as well as how you handle similar situations, that trauma is 100% real. And thriving in some cases.

Get into it [Probing Questions]

What is some random drama in your life? Make sure the drama does not involve you directly. The drama could be with anything from people, to rent, to school, to relationships, anything. What happened in that situation? How do you view the entire situation beginning and end? If you were involved instead, what would you have done differently? This will get you in the mindset to do so for yourself.

 

  1. Changes how you eat

Food is supposed to feel good, taste good, and fuel your body and mind. Science shows that foods ingested have a profound effect on the mind’s hormonal health and clarity. The mind of course chooses what foods will appease it and the body simultaneously. See what I’m getting at here?

Most often when you are in a space of pain or confusion, and your self worth is down, you want to eat things that trigger certain happy hormonal responses, or that remind you of certain comforting emotion or memory. This would help you get through your currently unpleasant situation.

While there is nothing wrong with eating for comfort, but there must be a balance. But most times when you are in the throws of emotional unrest you often choose perceived ‘comfort’ food over more nutritional foods that can comfort and heal as well as taste good.

Sometimes you can find yourself so emotionally drained that whenever you eat, you have no thought to the value of your health, the consistent damage on your body, or even fueling your mind.

If this is happening to you, emotional trauma and confusion you are feeling is completely real and indirectly causing you to harm yourself further.

Get into it [Probing Questions]

What foods would you eat everyday if you could? No judgement, just be real. Why do you love that food? What are memories with that food in them? How do you physically feel after eating that food? Be honest. Is the pleasure mostly physical or mental when you eat it? Take this as far as you will, but with this line of thought you will begin to correlate emotions with certain types of food.

 

Conclusion

In an era where everyone has a judgmental opinion, you should never have one about yourself. Approach yourself with tenderness and gentleness, not in order to baby yourself, but in order to grow.

If your inner child is broken, bashing yourself over the head is not going to bring the pieces back together. You wouldn’t do that to a real child. So don’t do it to yourself.

And most importantly do not seek coddling and nursing from others until you begin it for yourself. The reason for this is because no one knows or understands the situation the way you do, and you are the only one who can fully address it.

By your desire to heal, it already means that you can do this. Don’t worry. Just be receptive to your true self.

You might not know your true self at first, but it comes in spurts, impulses, and inner wisdom. Trust your inner receiving, it will know the way to go.

 

Much love peace and happiness.