How can you be detached from reality in a healthy way?


With everything going on, how do you not curl up into a ball of fear, hopelessness, and despair?

How do you not fall for every wind of “news” or “theory” that comes by claiming to be fact?

How do you discern truth and find your inner peace to power through uncertainty?

At a certain level, we have to detach from the external. Now this does not mean putting your head under a rock or in the sand. You can still be knowledgeable and informed, just not reacting to everything.

All of the outside information you receive should be taken with neutrality until you find the whole picture in order to consult yourself as to what you believe and what you don’t. Detaching and being neutral to a certain extent gives you the power of choice and places you above reactivity.

But with all this stuff being pumped 24/7, how do you even do that?

Below are 4 ways you can begin detaching right now to uncover you power of choice, discernment, and inner peace.


  1. Feel gratitude for all that you have

The first step to being detached is getting used to a state of bliss. The easiest way to do this is to get in the state of gratitude for all the large and small things of your life. This peace will calm a great deal of anxiety in your body and mind, making you less able to be affected by people and forces that try to put you in anger or fear.

The reason that this is important is because you are drawing from your own column of inner thankfulness, you are able to approach life from an even head. You will be able to make clearer and sound decisions in your exterior life, as well as be able to work out personal internal struggles you are working with.

This introspection and detachment does not mean you live in a false place, it just allows you a chance to think and make decisions with less outside influence. Less confusion, more clarity, more happiness.


  1. Do not let other people’s reality become yours

Another step towards healthy detachment is being the source of your judgment. How you see the world around you should not me a conglomeration of other’s views. Instead it should be your own personal interpretation of everything around you. When you look at things you have to take a change and decide what they mean to you, who you are, and how you relate to the world around you.

Too many people watch other things to tell them how to think and act instead of consulting themselves. Oftentimes many feel that this is dangerous or painful, because in order to do this there is a certain level or internal peace and honesty required. Most people do not have this and don’t want to try, so they get others people’s reactions as a quick fix, and adopt them as their own.

Detaching from consulting the “other” is a main key to detaching. Knowingly set an intention to become the architect of your own reality and stop being in default mode and adopting fake realities of others. A good way to start to do this is by asking 3 questions:

What do I feel about the world around me? Why?

What is my scope of change in my environment? Why?

How do I define myself internally and externally? Why?


  1. Remember every moment is anew

Past, being the nature that it is, cannot be changed. The future, also being as it is, cannot be known for certain due to the thousands of variables. So then, where can you put your focus for maximum enjoyment and purpose? Right now. Your present.

Think of that moment when everything escapes your mind in the middle of a sentence and you forget what you were saying. How does that even happen, how can you just forget everything you are thinking? If you are a combination of the thoughts you make, then who were you when the thoughts escaped your mind? You were still you. This simple observation vies for the possibility that not only can you chose new thoughts and feelings every moment, but you are apart from the previous “idea” of yourself.

Coming from this train of thought, live every moment of your life not only for the future pleasurable experiences, but also the pleasurable things for experience right now. Yes you can experience the future like it is now, but it is distinctly different from the present. How many choices do you have right this moment? Thousands. Knowing every moment is new gives you the ability to be free from limitations and dogma of predictability that can be placed on you from the outside. You realize by living in the present that there are no limits to being you.


  1. Know the realm of infinite possibility

Yes there are a lot of things that are predictable, but nothing is really predetermined. You may think so at first thought, but think of all of the insane freak accidents that have occurred that never “should” have happened. How then, did they happen? Without getting too deep in quantum physics, those things happened because there actually was nothing “stopping” that from happening. Being that we live in a field of energy within an infinite amount of choices from you, every person, every animal, and nature there is not much you can rule out as an impossibility.

From this same train of thought then, there probably isn’t much holding you back either. Overthinking does hold a lot of people back, but it is once again just a thought- and you have the choice to choose a different one as discussed above. Past feeling might be holding you back but once again, they are in the past and cannot be changed or fixed. You internally harping on them is not fixing anything. The pain from that can be processed and healed and once that happens, you’ll find you will forget the experience entirely. Solving these is actually simple, not easy all the time, but simple.

Once you work to find what is holding you back, address it and realize that living within that construct of pain, anxiety, etc is a choice. You, like a new sun each morning can rise anew and can make an infinite amount of choices to change all the things you though were predictable.

By mental breaking free from predictable dogma and oppressive social constructs, you can live in the realm of possibility that is actually the nature of the universe and even who you are on the inside.



Being detached is the key to freely flourishing into who you are internally and externally. No longer are you swayed by every wind of dogma or perspective that comes by and you become a powerful and discretionary emotionally independent person.

Detaching is the key to choice and the key to maintaining your true freedom, truth, and purpose.


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Mareka Belcher

Founded by Mareka Belcher an independent freelance entrepreneur and student out to help others find their own wellness and balance.

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