Most people live as a passive, unwilling victim of their circumstances and their “Story.”
While no one is invalidating the truth of where they are coming from, these beliefs have bad after affects that impede them living in their power and freeing themselves from the red tape.
Yea, they say, easier said than done.
But done is the simplest part honestly.
Doing the inner work might seem like a maze and a labyrinth of sinkholes and pain from unresolved issues. But it doesn’t have to be.
There might be pain, but it’s ok because healing the wounds is the only way to move past the chains of your surroundings and yourself.
Below you will learn 6 simple methods that together will free you to become your own self sufficient and independence person.
1. Determine the why’s of your beliefs
Think of the age old question “Tell me a little bit about yourself?” This question is so loaded because it tries to condense your intricacies into smaller phrases, words and statements. You yourself know you are so much more than just those words because you know why you say those things. This same space is powerful to do the necessary introspection that produces independent thinking.
What do you “believe” about the nature of yourself, and the world around you? And more importantly, why do you believe those things? Acknowledging this will free you from being in a reactive state, swayed by dogma, or taken advantage of. The clarity of this with yourself will make you a powerful self sufficient person that can overcome any obstacle or problem and make good decisions.
2. Clean up inner emotions and outer emotions for mental clarity.
We have this horrible stigma in Western Society that emotions are bad. While sometimes moods can be problem some, emotions are not the root of all evil. Where did this idea even come from? After all we are emotional creatures and it is within our nature.
I think most would agree that emotions are not the problem, but resulting emotional imbalances from the past is the real problems. Most insane emotions are trickle-downs from other unresolved issues. Coughing down this issues puts you into an emotional survival mode to cover up the issue and over time begins to control you. You become a slave to your triggers, fears, and past experiences.
To achieve independence from allowing the past to control you is to approach the touchy situation with a sense of neutrality, as if you were telling someone else. This way may be painful and it will resurface; let it do so and validate your own feelings. By stating the facts and validating your feelings you have realized your true power and are no longer a victim. Both parts of you are at peace: your logic and your emotion. From this balanced place, you have the power to allow that past situation to not snowball and derail your life and future.
3. Determine the obstacles that you back. Be honest and don’t sugar coat.
So many people feel like they have no idea what they want to do. Most times this is because they are so disconnected from themselves that they have no idea how to tell what their soul is drawn to. This is perfectly ok. Just start from wherever you are and think and do things that make you deeply happy. Do this a lot, knowing and practicing the feeling of genuine happiness will open internal doors within you to reveal your passions and make the path clear.
While you’re doing this peacefully without judgement regularly, you will intuitively know what steps are necessary to do some of your wants and dreams. What is stopping you from doing those things? are your barriers external or internal?
Understanding and seeing your internal and external barriers is not about knocking them down, it is about realizing that they never existed. This ability to see around internal and external obstacles is key to being an independent person who can fully be who they are and understand their purpose and true joy. This puts you in the drivers seat of your life. Moving past barriers internally will make you a whizz at moving the external barriers that approach you along the way to your passion and path. You will be an unstoppable force.
4. Decide their own version of the truth they stand on and approach the world with.
In an endless ocean of information and opinions, what you pay attention to says a lot about you. Of the information you consume, do you consume the information to tell you what to think, or to use it to form your own opinion?
Figuring out what you believe separate from external stimuli is the very meaning of independence. It allows you to plot your own course and decide the direction of your energy and your place in the universe.
5. Understand finances where they are now, and where they want to be
Money is a real thing. I understand that some people don’t care about it, and it is good not to be attached to it…… but it’s not healthy to pretend it’s not there. Finances is a part of life, and understanding yours will fix a lot of your uncertainty.
Taking a step into financial literacy will put you in the drivers seat of life and illuminate the path of self sufficiency. You want to live your life on your own terms internally and externally as well. Be a slave to nothing.
Determine what you can do to make money enough to the things you want. Remember that money is not the goal, the way you want to feel is. Money is owned by you it does not own you.
Financial honestly and literacy one of the keys to seeing internal and external independence. The sooner you start, you’ll wonder why you didn’t start sooner.
6. Becoming of self aware of the present moment
Of the past, present, or future, which holds your power now? The present. Your power is within the present, and this also can control your future. The actions and decisions you make today change your world forever to affect your past and future. This is powerful and is the key to taking action to become your own person.
So many people are controlled by what they think their future would be, or what their past was. Yes those may be real, but neither of those are within your power right now. Be in your power!
Become independent and a soaring star by taking responsibility for your present, not to change your views of the past, not just for your future, but also for the pleasure and power of this moment.
This way you become free from hypothetical what-ifs, overthinking, and made-up obstacles.
Becoming independent is the only way to free yourself period.
This does not mean not relying on other people for somethings. It just means that at the end of the day you are the only one that holds the present and future keys to your life and your story.
Great pleasure and responsibility wait at the door of your self-reliance independence.
Much love and light to you.