How do you discover personal freedom and mental and emotional independence?

Gaining true independence seems so big, it almost overwhelms you to even think about it.

At first glance the crushing weight of responsibility threatens to smash you flat.

Before you dismiss it completely, if you are patient with yourself, you will find the road to independence is smooth, steady, and filled with wonder and joy.

If you are willing to be loving and patient with yourself, you will find that the chains that stop your independence would fall off quite easily and simply.

So many people are trapped in a spiritually and physically codependent state with the environment and the people around them. They react to the things around them, either good or bad, and from there use it to define the way they view the world around them as well as themselves. This is destined for sadness and dissatisfaction.

Being in this reactive state puts you at odds with who you really are and robs you of your independence.

In this post I will explore 6 techniques to try to gain mental and eventually physical independence from the world around you to evolve into your own empowered free individual.

  1. Challenge beliefs and assumptions

The first way to gain independence, is to challenge the things you think you know. Take a step back in self reflection and think of how you relate to the yourself, your life, and the world around you.

By doing this, you will dissect your logical processes and expose assumptions that make up how you define yourself and your environment. How many things that you believe actually came from you conscious choice? Picking apart the things you believe will not only give you confidence in yourself, but also will free you from any hindering beliefs and assumptions that are not even your own.


Write down 5-7 concepts that in a nutshell explain you, your place in the world, and the world around you. Think of how you came to believe these things? Did they come from you, or did you just attach them to your psyche from other people?

  1. Do things that makes you happy

Another way to gain independence is to take your happiness in your own hands by consistently doing things that make you happy. During this process, you can realize that you are in control of how you feel, and no one else can truly make you fully happy except you.

Taking charge of your own happiness and how you feel will not only liberate you from the chains of your environment, but it will inspire you to find more things that make you happy. Over time you will have a brand new outlook on life and develop an insatiable desire for growth, expansion, and freedom.

  1. Define your goals w/out any external options

The next way to gain independence is to define goals and dreams that you have without the judging them with assumptions and stereotypes from the outside world.

By being honest about the things you want out of life, you break free from familial pressure, social norms and chains, and move uninhibited toward your life purpose. Putting your goals into perspective in relation to where you are, will inspire your unique perspective, creativity, and originality to develop your own plan to get there. You’ll surprise yourself with how you’ll be able to gather information and figure it all out.

  1. Soothe/comfort yourself

A way to gain an insurmountable amount of Independence is to become emotionally self-sustaining. Everyone has things that have happened that hurt them in the past. Sometimes if you have trouble healing, you often seek solace through depending on others to make you forget, give you a solution, or chase the pain away. Not only is this not sustainable, but it encourages codependency and mental slavery.

Breaking free of that type of bondage is the key to your spiritual freedom. Knowing how to take alone time for yourself, reflect and process how you are feeling, and let things go is a super power that can take you through anything in life.

  1. Understand finances and where you stand

So much financial information and knowledge is hidden from certain groups of people. Most people unfortunately know how to build everything else but true wealth. Why is this? This is because people have been trained into being in the dark financially and to blindly follow others who seem to have it, feeling you are doomed to never have their own.

By seeking out financial literacy and sustainability, you will feel more in charge of your future than ever before. Seeing the many financial possibilities and wealth opportunities opens up to accomplish all your dreams, pursue every pleasure you have, and support your family and lifestyle.

  1. Self discovery and mental clarity

Sometimes it feels like you just are floating along in a numb state of reacting into the world around you. You might feel your power is taken away form you and you don’t know how to take it back and gain your discretion and independence.

The first step to taking your power back is discovering yourself. This you do through self reflection and inner work. Instead of tackling this right away hear on, you can relax your way into it with things such as medication, yoga, and Tai Chi. These activities are relaxing to both the body and mind, and can significantly propel forward the mental clarity needed to uncover who you are. Other than those things, you can also start doing your passion and the “flow” state from that will uncover more and more about yourself.

The goal here is to discovery yourself furthermore your voice within yourself and within your world.

  1. Form self generated habits/routines

A great for of independence is developing your own routine and lifestyle.

This builds on the other techniques earlier of self-discovery and emotional sustainability. Based on those things and researching into your views, you can develop a set of activities that empower you to life your best life inside and out.

This can be absolutely anything from running in the mornings, to meditating for 5 minutes, to a special self affirmation routine you do before work every morning. Taking the time to develop and implement things that make your life better if a priceless change that will not only make you more independent, but also skyrocket your confidence and self-esteem.



Independence is the door to your spiritual awakening and awakening your joy and purpose in life.

By cultivating your own independence, you allow yourself to awaken your purpose passion and uniqueness within you and move forward to live the life your inner self knows it can.

Try these and you will not be disappointed.

Grown and flourish with your independence unapologetically.


Love and light to you.

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Mareka Belcher

Founded by Mareka Belcher an independent freelance entrepreneur and student out to help others find their own wellness and balance.

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