4 unmistakable signs and feelings that your personal emotional trauma needs healing

So many say if they can’t see something it is not real.

They scour for concrete evidence to support any claim they come in contact with.

While in the era of the internet this is a viable claim, when it comes to nonphysical things, since it doesn’t meet those requirements, many tend to sweep them under the rug as not valid.

Emotions specifically, since each individual has their own, are labeled consciously and subconsciously as not real or dismissed as being ‘too much’ to handle.

“Get over it!” they tell you. People often don’t want to deal with others emotions because they have the possibility of conflicting and releasing their own.

But the thing is that, denying something is real does not make it not so; especially when you can run away from everything but yourself.

Dismissing large emotions, does not make them go away. It just begins a pile of festering, rotting emotional wounds that can never get healed without mending. The infected pus will leak into all areas of your life unless you nurse them.

There are two main architypes of emotions. All of them matter, and each has their purpose, but how they are handled is different.

Passing funks and unnecessary moods Emotional mountains (surrounded by smaller hills and valleys)
Response to immediate surroundings

Immediate stimuli and response

Coverups to other issues


Internal/External Programming reactions

Beliefs that stem from memory roots

Emotional programming responses to similar situations


But what if it’s hard to tell the magnitude or depth? What if your judgement feels so clouded you have no idea what it going on?


But what to be honest about?

Since we live in homes and social settings that discourage uncovering root emotions…. how do we know those traumas that shape us are real? Honestly?

To demystify this process and kickstart your healing journey, you are about to learn 4 signs that your emotional traumas are in fact real. And require real attention and healing.


  1. Did it change how you see yourself?

Memories of massive emotional weight and trauma change the subconscious and conscious value and self image. When you uncover this memory, whatever it is, think of all of the things you felt at that time, just for a moment. Next think of why that memory stuck with you, and what you believe it taught you about your true self. Relate it to how you treat yourself in everyday living. If you see remnants and pieces of conclusions from that situation, in everyday life……it’s real.

Get into it [Probing Questions]

In 7 words, describe yourself. Write them down. Why did you choose those 7 words? Write that too. Think about a situation in your life where you exemplified this word. While this might be for good things, it will get you into the process of undercovering the bad situations it necessary.


  1. Changes how you see others

Saying things like ”I hate people.” “People make me sick,” “People don’t care about you!” and the infamous “People are out to get you.”

Where did it come from specifically? And before you say someone told you that, words don’t teach, experience does. So that means something had to happen to you for you to start internalizing that belief also.

Did the experience in mind jade your view of how other people think, and most importantly how other people relate to you? Find out if there is an innate belief somewhere that is a baseline for how you treat other people and how they in turn treat you.

If that situation changed people into pawns, villains, or even angels of salvation. Your trauma is real.

Get into it [Probing Questions]

Think about how you feel about people you don’t know. Not friends, not family, not acquaintances, just random people with a different background than you. If someone were to ask you to give them a cup of ice cream you just purchased, how do you envision the average person would react to that? Whatever the reaction is what is your support to that claim?


  1. Changes how you problem solve

Some situations in life will hit you on the blind side. These situations knock you over and try to shatter your routine. But do you let them? Sticky situations tend to stick you in them no matter what, sometimes when you’re not even involved. Do you take a chance to survey all perspectives before reacting, or do you jump back at the first thing that jumps at you?

Whatever that answer is: why do you do that? Do you feel people are disrespectful to you? Are they attacking you? What do you think it the best way to stop this from happening now and long term?

If there is a memory that changed your immediate and long term reaction to obstacles and problems, as well as how you handle similar situations, that trauma is 100% real. And thriving in some cases.

Get into it [Probing Questions]

What is some random drama in your life? Make sure the drama does not involve you directly. The drama could be with anything from people, to rent, to school, to relationships, anything. What happened in that situation? How do you view the entire situation beginning and end? If you were involved instead, what would you have done differently? This will get you in the mindset to do so for yourself.


  1. Changes how you eat

Food is supposed to feel good, taste good, and fuel your body and mind. Science shows that foods ingested have a profound effect on the mind’s hormonal health and clarity. The mind of course chooses what foods will appease it and the body simultaneously. See what I’m getting at here?

Most often when you are in a space of pain or confusion, and your self worth is down, you want to eat things that trigger certain happy hormonal responses, or that remind you of certain comforting emotion or memory. This would help you get through your currently unpleasant situation.

While there is nothing wrong with eating for comfort, but there must be a balance. But most times when you are in the throws of emotional unrest you often choose perceived ‘comfort’ food over more nutritional foods that can comfort and heal as well as taste good.

Sometimes you can find yourself so emotionally drained that whenever you eat, you have no thought to the value of your health, the consistent damage on your body, or even fueling your mind.

If this is happening to you, emotional trauma and confusion you are feeling is completely real and indirectly causing you to harm yourself further.

Get into it [Probing Questions]

What foods would you eat everyday if you could? No judgement, just be real. Why do you love that food? What are memories with that food in them? How do you physically feel after eating that food? Be honest. Is the pleasure mostly physical or mental when you eat it? Take this as far as you will, but with this line of thought you will begin to correlate emotions with certain types of food.



In an era where everyone has a judgmental opinion, you should never have one about yourself. Approach yourself with tenderness and gentleness, not in order to baby yourself, but in order to grow.

If your inner child is broken, bashing yourself over the head is not going to bring the pieces back together. You wouldn’t do that to a real child. So don’t do it to yourself.

And most importantly do not seek coddling and nursing from others until you begin it for yourself. The reason for this is because no one knows or understands the situation the way you do, and you are the only one who can fully address it.

By your desire to heal, it already means that you can do this. Don’t worry. Just be receptive to your true self.

You might not know your true self at first, but it comes in spurts, impulses, and inner wisdom. Trust your inner receiving, it will know the way to go.


Much love peace and happiness.

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Mareka Belcher

Founded by Mareka Belcher an independent freelance entrepreneur and student out to help others find their own wellness and balance.

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